Ask me
anything.
There is a version of a website like this one where I write things, you read them, and that is the end of it. This page exists because that has never been how I have actually learned anything worth knowing. The questions people ask me after a talk, in a hallway, or in a message late at night are almost always better than anything I would have thought to sit down and write on my own.
So ask me something. Whatever you are working through, whatever you are stuck on, whatever you have been carrying around for a while without saying out loud. I read every one of these myself, and I answer them myself.
Four things
worth saying.
This is not a form that lands in a queue somewhere and gets sorted by an assistant. It comes to me, and I am the one who reads it.
By email, usually within a week. Sometimes longer, because some questions deserve more thought than I have on the day they arrive.
Answers that would help other people go up on this page, with a first name only, and only if you tell me that is alright. That choice is a question on the form.
It costs nothing, you are not added to anything, and there is nothing to buy at the end of it. Ask a question, get an answer.
These come up
the most.
You do not have to have a tidy question. Half of these arrive as a paragraph that starts with I am not really sure how to explain this, and those are usually the good ones.
I am stuck and I cannot tell why
Nothing is wrong exactly. The job is fine, the routine works, and nothing has moved in a long time.
I do not feel ready
There is an opportunity in front of you and a voice telling you to wait until you feel more prepared for it.
There is a conversation I keep avoiding
You know the one. You have known for a while, and every week you decide it can wait until next week.
I just started leading people
The first time you are responsible for someone else’s growth is harder and lonelier than anyone tells you.
I start things and do not finish them
The starting has never been the problem. Somewhere around week three it goes quiet and you are not sure why.
Something knocked me down
A job you lost, a plan that fell apart, a setback you did not see coming, and no clear idea what comes next.
I feel behind everyone else
Everyone seems further along, and it is hard to tell whether that is true or just what it looks like from here.
Someone I love is stuck
You can see what they are capable of and they cannot, and you do not want to push them away by saying so.
Ask your
question.
Say as much or as little as you want. The more I understand about where you are, the more useful the answer will be.
One More Thing
If what you are carrying right now is heavier than a question, please do not let this page be the only place you take it. There are people trained for exactly that, they are easier to reach than most of us think, and a short list of them is on the where to go for help page. Send me your question too if you want to. Just do not send it instead.
Published here,
as they come.
This Page Just Opened
The first answers go up here as they arrive, with a first name only, and they stay up permanently so that the next person working through the same thing can find them. If a question of yours ends up here, it is because somebody else needed it too.
In the meantime, the questions I get asked most often already have answers in a few places on this site.
Frequently Asked Questions
The questions that come up most often about the book, the ideas inside it, and where somebody should start.
Read the FAQ →The Articles
Longer pieces on getting unstuck, self-doubt, follow-through, and the parts of this that are harder than they look.
Start Reading →Break the Barrier
Seven barriers, each with the reading, an exercise from the book, and something you can print. Start with the one that sounds like you.
Find Yours →The highest level of success is helping others become more.
Do something with it.
An article can name the thing. These are what move it, and all of them are free.
Break the Barrier
Seven barriers, each with the reading, an exercise from the book, and something you can print. Start with the one that sounds like you.
Find Yours →The Ten Principles
The framework this is all built on, in four movements. Each one has a page of its own and a worksheet you can print.
See Them →The Comfort Ceiling Assessment
Twenty five questions across five areas of your life, scored, showing where comfort is quietly making your decisions.
Take the Assessment →Ask Chris a Question
Whatever you are working through, send it. Chris reads every question himself and answers it himself, and it costs nothing.
Ask the Author →Share What Happened
If something here moved you and you acted on it, write it down. Yours might be the story that gets the next person to start.
Tell Your Story →The Free Tools
The Framework, the Playbook, the worksheets, the challenge. Free to read on the page or print and keep.
See Everything →Run It With Your Team
Four workshop formats you can run yourself, from one hour to ten weeks. Every word you need, and a workbook for each seat.
See the Formats →
When I’ve got something worth sending.
Just a story or an idea I picked up that I think will help you.
Sometimes that’s twice in a month. Sometimes it’s not for a while.