Fear of Starting
For anyone with a goal they have thought about for years and still have not started.
Fear of starting is the resistance you feel before beginning something that matters: a business, a workout plan, a book, a new role. It usually comes from wanting a perfect plan, fearing you will not finish or worrying about what starting will cost. The fix is to make the first step so small it feels almost silly, set a start date and tell someone, because once you begin, momentum does a lot of the work.
I left a stable leadership role at a company I loved to help run a startup. The old company was a well-oiled machine. The startup had no real systems and no clear playbook.
To become part of the company, I invested a substantial amount of my own money to purchase shares. Then, about a year later, when the company needed additional capital to keep moving forward, I invested even more.
I had drained a large portion of my savings, pulled money out of retirement and tied a meaningful part of my future to something that still had no guarantees.
What weighed on me the most was knowing that if it failed, it wouldn’t just affect me. It would affect the people depending on me.
Starting has a hidden benefit. Psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik observed that people remember unfinished tasks better than completed ones. Once you begin, the task stays on your mind and pulls you back to it, which is why the first step does more than it looks like.
Most dreams don’t die because people fail. They die because people wait.
Five ways to finally start
Shrink the first step
Not “write a book.” Write one paragraph. Not “get in shape.” Walk for ten minutes. A small start is still a start.
Set a start date and tell someone
A date turns someday into a plan. Telling someone adds just enough pressure to keep you from quietly pushing it back.
Stop waiting for the perfect plan
You will learn more in the first week of doing than in a year of planning. Start with a rough plan and improve it as you go.
Count the cost of not starting
Another year of thinking about it has a price. Write down what staying where you are will cost you in time, money or regret.
Protect the first two weeks
Schedule the next few sessions before you finish the first. Early momentum makes everything after it easier.
Most dreams don’t die because people fail.
They die because people wait.
Why starting feels harder than continuing
Before you start, every possible problem is still in front of you and none of the progress is. After you start, the problems become real and solvable, and small wins begin to show up. The hardest moment in most goals is the one right before the first step.
Related reading: How to Stop Waiting for the Right Time, How to Stop Procrastinating and The Types of Fear That Keep Capable People Small.
Common questions
Why am I afraid to start something new?
Usually because you want a perfect plan first, you worry you will not finish or you are afraid of what starting might cost. Those worries feel biggest before you begin.
How do I start when I feel overwhelmed?
Shrink the first step until it feels almost too easy, set a start date, tell someone and schedule the next few sessions so momentum can build.
What is the Zeigarnik effect?
The Zeigarnik effect, named after psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik, is the tendency to remember unfinished tasks better than completed ones. Starting a task keeps it on your mind and makes you more likely to return to it.
Is it better to plan or just start?
Do enough planning to take the first step, then start. You will learn far more from a week of doing than from months of planning.
Shrink the first step, set a date, tell someone and protect the first two weeks. Starting is the hardest part, and it is also the part that changes everything.
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