Fear of Being a Beginner
For anyone who is good at what they do and quietly avoids anything that would make them start over at the bottom.
Fear of being a beginner is the discomfort of being bad at something in front of others, especially once you are used to being competent. It keeps experienced people from learning new skills, changing roles or trying new things. To work through it, expect to be bad at first, pick a small first step, find a coach or teacher, measure progress against your past self and remember that every expert you admire was once a beginner too.
Speaking to my own company was one thing. Speaking at conferences was another. Every application asked for videos, testimonials and references I didn’t have, so I applied anyway, and eventually one said yes.
Looking back, that first presentation wasn’t very good compared to what I know now. That’s the point. I wasn’t supposed to be great yet. I was supposed to learn.
After that, I studied other speakers, invested in coaching and refined my talks. Then I applied for bigger opportunities.
The confidence didn’t come before the experience. It came because of it.
Being willing to look like a beginner is a skill. Research by Carol Dweck found that people who see ability as something they can develop are more likely to take on challenges and keep going after setbacks than people who see ability as fixed.
Every expert you admire was once bad at the thing you are afraid to start.
Five ways to get comfortable being a beginner
Expect to be bad at first
The first attempts are supposed to be rough. When you expect it, the awkward stage stops feeling like proof you should quit.
Pick a small first step
One class, one lesson, one practice session, one small project. Starting small means the first mistakes are cheap.
Find a coach or teacher
A good coach saves you years of figuring it out alone. Coaching was part of how I refined my talks after that first one.
Compare yourself to your past self
You are seeing someone else’s chapter twenty next to your chapter one. Measure progress against where you were a month ago.
Bring your experience with you
Discipline, work ethic and how you handle feedback all carry over. Experienced beginners often learn faster than they expect.
I wasn’t supposed to be great yet.
I was supposed to learn.
Why experienced people avoid being beginners
The better you get at something, the more your identity gets tied to being good. Starting something new threatens that. A senior leader learning a new skill, a veteran athlete learning a new position or a student switching majors all face the same choice: protect the image of being good, or keep growing.
Related reading: How to Develop a Growth Mindset, How to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone and The Types of Fear That Keep Capable People Small.
Common questions
Why am I afraid of being a beginner?
Because being bad at something in front of others threatens how competent you see yourself, especially if you are used to being good at what you do.
How do I get over the fear of starting something new?
Expect to be bad at first, start with a small low-stakes step, find a coach or teacher and measure progress against your past self instead of experts.
Is it too late to learn a new skill as an adult?
No. Adults often bring discipline, focus and experience that help them learn faster than they expect. The bigger obstacle is usually the fear of looking inexperienced.
What is beginner’s mind?
Beginner’s mind is approaching something with openness and curiosity, as if you were learning it for the first time, even when you have experience.
Expect to be bad at first, start small, get coaching and measure yourself against your past self. Being a beginner is the way into anything new.
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